30
Aug
08

Four Day Weekend

I am going to enjoy this 4 day weekend.

I don’t have any plans for Labor Day tho. I miss the days when ALL of us came together for a bar-b-q and just partied and had a good time. You know like a family is supposed to. I miss that. It makes me want to have a little family of my own. My very wise and smart man says “no we cannot afford” and you know he is soo right. Babies are cute but I need to figure out a way to pay for that booger first.

I was thinking, with all these women getting knocked up with no father in the picture, it does make me wonder are the women the ones convincing the men to impregnate them.

I started getting baby fever around age 22 and I would bring up to my ex from time to time that we should have a little one but he would always quickly knock down my idea.

I bring it up from time to time with Bj and he says “not right now”, but I know if I continued to press the issue I could easily convince him to have one with me.

I just wonder how many men that have impregnated these women were unwilling parties.

You know most men are easy to talk into doing stuff especially when they care about you. They love to please us ladies.

Even if the men were talked into getting their woman pregnant it does not excuse them from taking care of the baby once it is here and the relationship doesn’t work out like they had hoped.

I am just saying, I bet it was a lot of women that talked these men into getting them pregnant when they were not ready and now are mad because they not taking care of it.

Bj has a baby mama. A couple actually. It was one of the reasons that I did not want to get with him in the beginning but he won me over. Baby Mama #2 just came back into his life last year and has really been a thorn in his side because he is not being the father he should right now.

I don’t know how I feel about that. He doesn’t want to deal with her for a couple of reasons. The girl talks to him crazy every time she does call. I am not used to that. I told him I am the only one that gets to talk to you crazy like that lol. She is not fucking you anymore. But I digress. I know it is probably hard on her doing it all on her own.

Also he doesn’t just get to have the boy whenever he wants. He can’t just go get him. He has to play by her rules. She has to come along whenever he decides to do something with him. He says he wants to wait until he is older to be in his life because he does not want to deal with her. I would probably feel the same way no kidding but he did decide to have a child with her so the kid should not get punished because of the way his mother is.

I also don’t want to be the reason he is not in this child’s life which he says I am not. He tells me I am the reason that he will be in his life sooner than later because I always ask about the boy and if he has talked to him. Whenever the girl calls I do push him to answer. I don’t know if thats right or not. I don’t think I should be forcing him to be in the boy’s life but I know if I pressured him about it he would be more active in it. Funny but my opinion on this matters to him a lot. I am going to stop doing that tho. Its not my kid and I don’t want to be like his baby’s mother forcing him to see the boy when the child is not mine lol.

He made me mad though when we broke up ……for a day lol . He did tell the girl he would start seeing the boy more so I told him that makes me feel like I am the one coming in between you and seeing your child. Why?

N T Way.

I hope everyone has a good Labor Day weekend. I will enjoy my time off even if  I don’t do anything else. Maybe we can catch a movie or something. We haven’t did anything in awhile as a couple.

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5 Responses to “Four Day Weekend”


  1. August 31, 2008 at 7:20 pm

    Interesting topic you have here. Me and my bf have a son together and he also has 3 other baby mamas. I see where u say that women ask men to impregnate them, I see things this way…if u as a man lay down with a woman w/o using a condom u plan on having a child with that woman. If they decide to think with their dick then thats on them. My bf has a 9 year old son with whom he has just started to establish a relationship with. He tells me that the girl had a baby on him and didnt tell him until the baby was here. The only reason he is being a part of his life now is because she just recently filed for child support. I dont really know how I feel about that because bf tells me that every time he looks at the boy he thinks u werent supposed to be here and he said he doesnt feel any love for him deep down. I try to explain to him that the boy doesnt have anything to do wit what his mom did or how u feel about her but he still needs love regardless but at the same time I can see how hard it is for you to love someone who u have absolutely no connection with. I think I’m done rambling now

  2. 2 Eb
    September 2, 2008 at 6:44 am

    hope you had a good weekend… but yeah that is a tough one… the reason why I never dated men with kids… I dated one straight out of HS and vowed never to do it again… and until this year I hadn’t… but going into this year all my friends let me know that yo… we are getting older… the chances of you finding a man with no kids now is close to slim… so I have been more lenient… but I definitely cant deal with the baby mama drama

  3. September 2, 2008 at 10:45 am

    @Cherish
    Thanks for stopping by. I know I could learn to love his son. That really wouldn’t be a problem for me. I just don’t want any problems with the boys mother. I just don’t know how I feel about my bf not owning up to his responsibilities. I think its wrong for him not to be doing what he should but I still love him. I don’t want to push him to take care of his when he should be doing it on his own.

    @Eb
    Yea this is the first guy I have dated with kids. I said I didn’t want a guy with kids because I wanted us to share that experience together but my bf is very persistent and he won.I always tell my bf I will x him out of my life before i allow anyone to bring drama to mine. I don’t do BM drama.

  4. September 2, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    You know how I feel tho Chrissy, his bm is his problem not urs. You make sure he understands that now and let him know that when she becomes your problem that is grounds for immediate dismissal. When me and my bf went thru our ups and downs and his bm was callin me every other day tellin me he was sleepin wit her he would always tell me that she was lying and all I had to do was tell her to stop callin. I calmly informed him that it wasnt my job to tell her to stop calling because I didnt give her my number, she got it from going thru his shit and when I got tired of playing the game wit her, I packed his shit, sat it on my front porch and told him “thats ya bitch so handle ya shit wit her and she needs to stop calling me” and when he realized I was serious and he was bout to be put out on his ass all of a sudden she stopped callin. I dont know what he said to her but he finally realized that she was his issue and not mine.

  5. September 2, 2008 at 5:12 pm

    Good job on handling that Cherish and I would do the same if it came down to it.

    Oh right now he doesn’t have any issues with her because he just ignores her calls but thats not the proper way of handling it I know because he needs to be there for his son.


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